Truckin' With Sam

A Father and Son, The Mick and The Dyl, Rockin' and Rollin', On the Road

Lee Gutkind

After years of thinking he’d never have kids, Lee Gutkind became a father at forty-seven and, following his divorce, soon found himself taking over more and more of the primary care responsibilities for his son, Sam. As one of a growing number of “old new dads” (recent studies have shown that one in ten children are born to fathers over forty), Gutkind realized that he faced challenges—both mental and physical—not faced by younger dads, not the least of which was how to bond with a son who was so much younger than he.

For the past seven years, Gutkind’s approach to this challenge has been to spend one to two months of every summer “truckin’” with Sam, a term they define as a metaphor for spontaneity, a lack of restriction: “Truckin’ means that you can do what you want to do sometimes; you don’t always need to do what’s expected.”

What began as long, cross-country journeys in a pickup truck, including one memorable trip up the Alaska-Canadian Highway en route to a writers' conference in Homer, Alaska, have in more recent years ranged farther afield, to Europe, Australia, Tibet, and Africa. Whether listening to rock-and-roll music, entertaining themselves with their secret jokes and code words, fishing for halibut, or fighting over tuna fish sandwiches and how best to butter one’s toast, Lee and Sam have learned to respect one another. In the process of their travels and their adventures, Lee has also come to grips with the downside of middle age and the embarrassment of “senior moments,” while Sam has inevitably begun to assert himself and shape his own life.

Interspersed with Sam’s own observations and journal entries, Truckin’ with Sam is an honest, moving, and often hilarious account of one father’s determination to bond with his son, a spontaneous travelogue that will appeal to old dads, new dads, and women who want to know more about how dads (and sons) think and behave.

Reviews

"Honest, moving, and often hilarious"

SUNY Press

Interspersed with Sam’s own observations and journal entries, Truckin’ with Sam is an honest, moving, and often hilarious... read more

"Frank, funny"

Pittsburgh Post-Gazette

July 18, 2010

When his only son turns 13, a divorced, Jewish, 60-year-old writer buys a used pickup so that father and son can truck together on the... read more

Excerpts

Creation Elation Lee Gutkind

Our first real truckin’ destination back... read more

The Evolution of Truckin' Lee Gutkind

It all began in a Starbucks near Sam’s... read more

Laowai—March 2008 Lee Gutkind

The rat-tat-tat of gunfire awoke me. It was... read more