How to Write About Your Sex Life // Webinar

Without Making Your Reader Cringe and/or Horrifying Friends and Family

How to Write About Your Sex Life // Webinar

The strongest memoirs are those that bring the reader in close.

They create a sense of intimacy using personal disclosure that can range from the good to the embarrassing to the horrific—and this includes what happens beneath the sheets. Whether our experiences with sex have been fantastic or traumatic (or both!), it can be scary to approach sex in our memoirs. But it doesn't have to be. In this session, Steph Auteri shares her own experiences writing about sex, talks about the stigma surrounding both sex and sex writing, explores how a sex scene can serve the narrative (or not), lays out some ground rules for good and bad sex writing, and guides students through a process of self-inquiry that will allow them to work through their own fears around sex writing and, eventually, make a decision around whether or not to publish this work. Students will also leave with several writing exercises they can work through on their own as they experiment with revealing the details of their intimate lives. 

In this webinar, you will:

  • CONSIDER how widespread social stigmatization of sexuality has affected the way we approach our writing around that topic.
  • BREAK DOWN what makes a sex scene -- or writing about sex in general -- strong or weak.
  • BEGIN a process of self-inquiry that will help you face your fears around sex writing.

There will be time for a Q & A at the end of the presentation.

This webinar is ideal for writers who are grappling with how much to reveal about their personal sex life. Whether their experience was positive or negative, they are stymied by this task because the language of sexuality has been stigmatized. How should they approach it? What will people think? What will their loved ones think?


Wednesday, November 11th, 2020

2 pm - 3 pm ET

Advance registration required.
Space is limited.

$15 if registered by 11/01/2020
$25 if registered after 11/01/2020

Registration will close 24 hours before the event.

A recording of the webinar will be sent out to all registrants three business days after the event.

PLEASE NOTE: It may take a little while for us to process your order and send you the link to the webinar. If you haven't received the link by the morning of November 11th, please email us at

About the instructor: Steph Auteri has written about sexuality for the Atlantic, Vice, Pacific Standard, the Guardian, and elsewhere. Her more literary work has appeared in Poets & Writers, Under the Gum Tree, Creative Nonfiction, and other publications. Her reported memoir, A Dirty Word, came out in 2018.Steph recently launched an online sex education resource at This site provides resources to parents and teens seeking out alternative sources of information around sexuality and also provides tips to those who want to know how to advocate for better sex ed within their communities. Steph also teaches a sex-positive parenting workshop through PULP Public School. When she's not writing and advocating for better sex ed, Steph teaches yoga, plays terrible ukulele covers, sings in a women's social justice choir, and stumbles her way through conversations about butts and vulvas with her six-year-old daughter. You can learn more at

Questions? Please call us at 412-404-2975 or email the director of education, Sharla Yates, at